Month: August 2013

  • To Serve, Not to Achieve

    I was chatting with a friend about career and prestige.

    We moved on to talk about time, or rather, the lack thereof.
    Then he asked me, "How does your non-profit involvement help you achieve your goals?"
    It was a very foreign question.
    There's no 'personal goal' to this.
    It's simply a service, not a path to an achievement.

  • Lump or Bone?

    My gyno was showing me how to check for breast cancer.

    After some random button-pressing-like motions on my womanhood (more commonly known as boobies or the adults like to call them breasts), my gyno paused.
    Then she let out a small sigh of relief and went, "Oh, it's just bones."
    Gotta love my Asian genes 

  • Pegging

    Friend: "Do you know what pegging is?"

    Me: "No."
    Friend: "It's when a woman wears a strap-on and penetrates a guy from behind."
    Me, instinctively: "Ew! Why would anyone do that?!"
    Friend: "The fact that it's not the norm doesn't make it wrong you know?"
    I paused and processed what my friend said. He was right.
    Initially, I had a what-the-eff type reaction. 
    My reaction was a result of an innate bias influenced by what I deemed as the 'norm'.
    Sometimes when things are the norm, you don't spend time questioning if the norm is right or wrong, or if there is a right or wrong.
    In this context, as long as the intercourse is consensual between two adults, who am I to pass judgment?
    I've always been very pro-LGBT rights. Not that pegging is a LGBT community specific thing.
    But... having friends who are plugged in that scene reminds me to keep an open mind to perspectives that are different from mine.

  • What Am I Going to Do With My Free Time?

    I told PUYOers I will stop calling meetings after our September elections meeting.

    I'm stepping down, completely.
    Every type of organization, at every stage, needs a different type of leader. I'm no longer the right type of leader for PUYO. I recognize that, so I'm stepping down.
    I will forever love PUYO. The people are solid.
    Things have started to wind down. And it's scary to think that I'd be as free as I'd be.
    Here' my Calendar last month, excluding my vacation week, it was a very typical month.
    July Calendar

    I took a look at my calendar for September. It is eerily quiet.

    September Calendar

    I feel a levitating sense of emptiness. 
    A little scared about the alone times. A little excited about what I could potentially make out of the extra hours.
    I did say several years ago, I want to do a little more frontline volunteer work when I get a break from nonprofit planning.
    In addition to visiting John every week, I've signed up to be an Art Buddy.
    Once a month, I will do art with a small group of young adults with developmental disabilities. 
    I'm not particularly artistic, but I'm excited about this program.
    I think I'd enjoy the art sessions for the art itself. Also, working alongside these young adults makes me happy. 
    People with developmental disabilities are actually some of the happiest people I've ever met. Some of them laugh so easily. They are like kids without the bratty-ness and the ego. 
    They remind me how happiness could be so simple and I should be content with my life.
    Here's the Art Program curriculum. Canvas, acrylic paint, food art, clay sculptures....  joy!